When the kiss of death is like: causes and signs of philemaphobia


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A bruise on the lip can form due to a bruise, biting the teeth, trauma during dental treatment, or as a reaction to a drug. The causes include malocclusion, vitamin deficiency, and the use of anticoagulants and antiplatelet agents. The mark is formed due to hemorrhagic vasculitis or tumor development.

Even hot kisses can spoil the appearance of your lips. Therefore, a bruise is treated by applying cold in the first minutes after the injury. Then they use absorbable agents: gels Troxevasin, Lyoton, Hepatrombin ointment, Arnigel, Bruise OFF cream. Compresses made from aloe with honey, wormwood, and raw potatoes will also help.

Reasons why a bruise appeared on the lip

A bruise on the lip can occur for several reasons:

  • Because of the bruise. This area is very sensitive, with thin transparent skin, without fat. There are a lot of blood vessels here, and they are easy to damage. The blood released from the destroyed capillaries remains in the tissues for some time. And it is clearly visible through the transparent skin, much more clearly than on other parts of the body.
  • Due to other mechanical effects. It is not uncommon to have bruises on the lips from kissing. Too active actions of a partner can lead to injury to small vessels. Especially if you kiss for a long time.

You can damage the area while eating if you bite the mucous membrane with your teeth. Or in the dentist’s office, when you have to open your mouth wide and stay in that position for a long time. Vessels can become damaged from tension, resulting in a blue mark or several.

  • Due to malocclusion. The abnormal position of the dentition when the lips are closed, while eating, or talking can lead to soft tissue injury. And this happens more than once, so spots appear often.
  • Due to lack of vitamin C in the body. The problem weakens the blood vessels, making them vulnerable to any influence. And the lip area is very mobile, so capillaries can burst during communication, laughter, while eating, or simply from an awkward touch.
  • As a result of a cosmetic procedure - augmentation with hyaluronic acid, tattooing. In this case, a bruise on the lip is formed due to damage to a large vessel. Small capillaries are also injured, because living tissue comes into contact with the filler.
  • Due to hemorrhagic vasculitis. This disease occurs with inflammation of blood vessels. For the most part, the rashes are localized on the limbs and body, but spots can also be on the lips.
  • Because of the tumor. The neoplasm is formed from the vascular network, feeds on it, so at first it looks like a bruise. As a result of its development, soft tissues and new vessels are damaged. Therefore, the stain begins to protrude above the skin.
  • If necessary, take blood thinning medications. Aspirin and other anticoagulants also weaken blood vessels. And when they are damaged, biological fluid spreads more actively in the tissues.

A hematoma on a child’s lip in most cases appears due to injury. It doesn't have to be a hit or a fall. Small children love to try toys and various objects on their teeth, and often suck a finger or a pacifier. All this can also cause damage to the mucous membrane and red border.

We cannot exclude a lack of ascorbic acid in the body, hemorrhagic vasculitis, which develops at the age of 5-14 years. The cause may be a tumor formation, but this is much less common. Parents should also monitor the development of their child’s bite. If hematomas appear regularly, you may need to think about correction.

How long does it take?

How long a hematoma in the lip area lasts depends on many factors:

  • age (old people take longer to recover);
  • features of the metabolic process;
  • existing diseases;
  • care

The depth and extent of the bruise are important, because the stronger the injury, the longer it will take to heal.

But on average, small hematomas resolve in 4-7 days. In the worst case scenario, it will take 2 weeks to heal.

Manifestations

A kiss is the best way to declare your love for another person, express gratitude and sympathy. For almost all of humanity, this is a pleasant process that gives rise to warm and tender feelings.

A study was conducted that found that kissing can save lives. Men who kiss their wives before leaving for work are less likely to get into car accidents.

But people suffering from philemaphobia are terrified of kissing and experience horror if they have to perform such an action. The person develops all the vegetative signs that usually accompany any phobia. The patient experiences undisguised disgust. For him, the kiss becomes a source of stress.

Symptoms of the disorder depend on the degree of fear the person with philemaphobia experiences. If it is very strong, then a panic attack occurs with all its attributes: trembling, dizziness, diarrhea or nausea, palpitations, difficulty breathing, sweating, chest pain.

Philemaphobia can have various manifestations. A person experiences slight discomfort when he receives or gives a kiss, without receiving pleasure at all, even when he loves the person very much and is emotionally attached to him.

Despite the disgusting feelings, the philemaphobe continues to kiss to a “mild degree”, experiencing indifferent sensations. He makes such sacrifices if he experiences super-powerful tender feelings towards his partner.

The patient may feel disgusted during certain types of kissing.

Young man, 28 years old: “Just kissing a girl on the cheek or lips is no problem at all. The situation escalates when the girl tries to prolong the innocent kiss. When her tongue is in my mouth, panic sets in. Starts to feel nauseous. A gag reflex appears, vomiting began several times.”

At the extreme level of the disorder, philemaphobe experiences frightening feelings, observing the process from the outside.

The patient is able to hide a painful feature. He avoids kisses and excludes the possibility of entering into a relationship.

A 36-year-old woman decided to give up romantic relationships with men. According to her, she is tired of torturing her partners. She used to come up with any excuse to escape hugs and kisses. Now the girl has completely given up dating men, as she feels disgusted when trying to kiss.

Previously, the phobia was less pronounced. The girl got married, the marriage lasted 8 years. The woman managed to have an intimate relationship without kissing. The phobia worsened after the birth of the child. Now the patient experiences panic even at the sight of a kissing couple, not to mention her own participation in the process.

The alarmist gives the following explanation for her fear: thinking or watching people kissing, a woman imagines an army of bacteria swarming and inhabiting the organisms of those kissing. When a woman went on dates in person, she experienced similar feelings when threatened with a kiss and could not think about anything else.

Diagnosis of a hematoma on the lip

If hematomas on the lip appear frequently, or the mark does not go away for a long time, or increases in size, you should definitely see a doctor. In case of injury, you can contact a traumatologist or surgeon. If a bruise has formed after “beauty injections”, at least a consultation with the cosmetologist who performed the procedure is necessary.

If a blood disease or other systemic pathology is suspected, a general analysis (CBC) is performed, and a detailed analysis may be prescribed. Depending on the results, more detailed studies of biological fluid may be needed, as well as ultrasound of internal organs, x-rays of joints, etc.

How to remove a hematoma after a blow

You can remove a hematoma after an impact, or rather, prevent it from spreading and becoming too noticeable with the help of:

  • Cold compress. Ice is applied to the bruised area for 15-20 minutes. It needs to be wrapped in a napkin, otherwise the extreme cold will also cause frostbite. Then take a break and repeat the compress.
  • Several metal spoons. They are placed in the freezer to cool and applied to the bruise one by one. As soon as one spoon warms up, it is replaced with the next one, etc. The whole procedure should also take no more than 20 minutes, and after a pause it is repeated.

How to get rid of a bruise on the lip with drugs

You can get rid of a bruise on the lip using external agents that promote resorption:

  • Gel Troxevasin. They use it 1-2 times a day for a week. It should be applied in a thin layer. The drug contains troxerutin, which strengthens blood vessels.
  • Gelya Lyoton. The product can be applied up to 3 times a day. If the hematoma is on the lip, this should be done within a week. Lyoton contains sodium heparin, which increases vascular resistance.
  • Cream Bruise OFF. The drug based on leech extract and pentoxifylline is used up to 5 times a day. It relieves swelling, inflammation and pain.
  • Heparin ointment. In addition to the absorbable effect, it also provides pain relief, since it contains benzocaine. This ointment for bruises on the lips is applied to the bruise 1-2 times a day.
  • Arnigel. The drug contains an extract of the arnica plant, which has analgesic, anti-inflammatory and regenerative effects. It is applied 2-3 times a day. Course – 7 days.
  • Balsam Rescuer. It is a product based on plant extracts, without dyes or fragrances, so it can be used for hematomas on the inside of the lip. The balm is applied 2-3 times a day. Before use, you should read the composition, as some components may cause allergies.
  • Indovazina. The gel can be used 3-4 times a day. It contains troxerutin and indomethacin. That is, the product not only quickly resolves bruises around the lips and on the red border, but also eliminates pain.

You should not use products with badyaga to treat hematomas in this area. Sea sponge causes dryness and burning on the red border of the lips, which can injure them even more. The bruise will go away, and then you will have to treat the skin for peeling and cracks.

Disorder within other phobias

Philemaphobia, like any irrational fear, overtakes anxious individuals, especially sensitive ones, susceptible to suggestion. The disorder is often accompanied by hysterical neurosis, and occurs as a manifestation of:

  • hedonophobia - fear of having fun, because then inevitable retribution follows;
  • bacteriophobia – fears that pathogenic bacteria can enter the body, including through a kiss, and cause a fatal infection;
  • philophobia - fear of love;
  • genophobia – fear of intimate relationships;
  • Chiraptophobia – intolerance to touch.

As part of the listed disorders, fear of kissing exists as one of the manifestations of the disease. Then it becomes more difficult to get rid of it, since its true cause must first be identified.

This disorder can progress over time. It is difficult to imagine what could provoke its blossoming. With philemaphobia, a person loses the opportunity to build warm, trusting relationships. Refuses to marry and loses the chance to create a strong family.

How to quickly remove using folk methods

It will be possible to quickly remove a hematoma using a combination of medicinal treatment methods and folk remedies:

  • Plantain. The plant leaf is washed well and cut in several places to release the juice. The plantain should be applied to the mark for 15 minutes, then removed and replaced with a new one. The plant is rich in vitamins C and K, tannins, so it perfectly removes bruises and is pleasant to use.
  • Aloe. It is advisable that the plant is at least 3 years old, as it contains more useful components. The aloe leaf is cut lengthwise and the wet side is applied to the hematoma. You can also treat a bruise on the inside, but the juice has a bitter taste. The resorption effect is achieved through vitamins, tannins, and regenerating components.
  • Potatoes. Raw tuber should be used. The product is washed, peeled, grated or crushed using a blender. The gruel should be very tender. It is placed in gauze and applied to the bruise for 20 minutes twice a day.

You can cut the raw vegetable into slices and make a compress with them, changing them as the juice dries. Potatoes contain vitamins A, E and K, which have a beneficial effect on blood vessels, so you can quickly cure a bruise on your lip.

  • Banana. The skin is removed and the pulp is mashed with a fork. It can be applied to the bruise several times a day. Bananas contain a lot of vitamin C and potassium, which tonic blood vessels, hence its regenerating properties. The pulp can also be applied to the mucous membrane of the lip without fear of burning or an unpleasant aftertaste. Some people use banana peels to resolve bruises. It should be applied from the inside.
  • Aloe and honey. The plant is crushed and mixed in equal parts with the liquid product. You need to make sure that no sharp particles of aloe get into the pulp, they can hurt your lips. The mixture is applied to the bruise for 15 minutes. After the compress, it is washed off and, for example, Troxevasin gel is applied.
  • Fresh cabbage leaf. Before use, it is also cut until the juice comes out. This remedy can be applied for a couple of hours, secured with a band-aid. Fresh vegetables contain more ascorbic acid than citrus fruits. It ensures tissue regeneration.
  • Bitter wormwood. The grass is crushed, placed in gauze and applied to the affected area for 15-20 minutes. You need to repeat the procedure 3-4 times a day. Wormwood juice is very bitter, so you should try not to get it on the mucous membrane.

How to remove a bruise under and on the lip using cosmetics

You can remove a bruise under the lip and on the red border using cosmetic tricks:

  • Tonal means. The cream should have a dense texture and match the natural skin tone. But before applying it, you should use a concealer. This is also a product of creamy consistency in a pencil or palette.

It is important to choose the right color. If the hematoma is blue, the shade is neutralized with a yellow or orange corrector, depending on the natural color of the skin. For a “fading” green bruise, use lavender or lilac. If you have a yellow hematoma, you should try pink. The crimson “blanch” is hidden with a green concealer. Only after applying a corrector that will dull the color of the defect, use foundation. The top of the skin can be powdered.

  • Lipstick. It is easier for a woman to disguise a bruise on her lip with this product if it has a dense texture but is quite greasy. Lipstick should be well pigmented. A translucent, delicate shade will not be suitable for masking a hematoma. And the remedy must also be durable, so that after the first snack or sip of water the bruise is not visible.

A man can try to cover up the mark on his lip with a translucent foundation. It will not leave a light spot that would stand out against the general background, like a product with a dense consistency. But it will dull the blue. Even if the hematoma remains visible, it will be less noticeable.

Another option for men is a lip pencil in a natural shade. It should be soft, but not greasy, without shine. First, the stain is neutralized with concealer, then painted over with a pencil. You should not apply it to the entire surface of your lips, it will look cartoonish.

How to make a bruise on your lip

It's quite easy to bruise your lip by hitting yourself with an object, entrusting the job to someone else, or trying to leave a mark with a pinch. But these are very unpleasant methods, because there are many pain receptors in the mouth area. It's safer to draw the mark using:

  • Long lasting eyeshadow. Dry ones are best, they blend more naturally. Creamy ones are also possible, but without pearlescent particles. The colors chosen are blue, purple, burgundy, gray, combining them.
  • Brown sulfur from matches. It is cut with a knife and crushed. A cotton swab is dipped into the mixture and a black eye is drawn with it, lightly rubbing into the skin.
  • A couple of aluminum spoons. You need to rub them against each other, and then on the skin of your lips. There will be a bluish coating on it, similar to a fresh bruise.
  • A simple pencil. The lead should be rubbed onto the paper until it turns into a powder. You can dip your finger in the mixture and apply it to the desired location. Or the stylus is rubbed on a sheet of paper and with its help a “hematoma” is imprinted on the lip.
  • Aluminum button. It is used together with a simple pencil. The convex part is painted with it, after which a mark is applied to the selected area.

Watch a video on how to do “Ragged Lip” makeup:

Causes of philemaphobia

There are many reasons that provoke the appearance of the disorder:

  • fear of losing control. A person believes that during a kiss he will lose the ability to think sensibly and allow unwanted events to happen;
  • violation of personal space. Fear that another person will destroy the personal boundaries of the phobe, and as a result the latter will feel vulnerable, he will have a feeling of insecurity, and personal comfort will be lost;
  • experience of violence - if the philemaphobe has been subjected to sexual violence or attempted rape in the past, during which the rapist tried to kiss the victim. This is a rather difficult psychological circumstance, especially suffered during adolescence. It leaves a deep traumatic mark on the psyche;
  • disgust. The thought of having a foreign tongue in the mouth causes a feeling of disgust in the patient;
  • fear of being bitten. A person is afraid that during a kiss his partner may bite him on the lip or cheek. One of the reasons for this fear is an unsuccessful childhood experience. There is a well-known situation where children in kindergarten bite each other. The victim subsequently experiences fear at the sight of any approaching mouth, including during a kiss. The patient realizes that the process should bring pleasure, but childhood fear takes over. It’s not without reason that they say that all problems come from childhood;
  • watching horror films. Scenes where disgusting tentacles grow from the monster's mouth cause unpleasant sensations. But such a picture affects impressionable, emotional people more intensely, inspiring fear associated with the oral zone, and transforming into an unusual phobia;
  • fear of intimate relationships. A person is afraid to kiss, as it implies further entry into an intimate relationship;
  • obsession with hygiene. Philemaphobe is afraid to kiss because he expects an unpleasant odor from the mouth;
  • religious beliefs. Deeply religious people avoid kisses, considering them vulgar and immoral. The possibility of kissing is fearfully rejected to prevent sinful acts;
  • cultural motives. In some tribes of South America, Asia, and Africa, kissing is not accepted at all. Therefore, philemaphobia manifests itself as fear of the unknown;
  • There is a concept of fear before the first kiss. A person is afraid of disappointing his partner.

Particular attention should be paid to sex education for adolescents. Often the phobia originates from childhood, when a child or teenager incorrectly interprets scenes of intimate life. The reason may be silence or a ban on discussing intimate topics.

In some cases, philemaphobia becomes a response to an ignored fear that arose in the course of seeing a picture of oral sex. This usually becomes the lot of teenagers who watch pornographic films.

What should not be done when treating a hematoma on the lip

You can interfere with the rapid healing of burst vessels by careless actions, so you should not:

  • Warm a newly formed bruise. Heat will further weaken the blood vessels and the swelling will increase. And the mark itself will become more noticeable and painful.
  • Eating spicy, hot or too cold food. Temperature variability also does not benefit injured vessels. Food should be warm and so that you don't have to put a lot of effort into chewing.
  • Drink alcohol and smoke. Alcohol and nicotine, tars harm blood vessels and inhibit the regeneration process. Ethanol burns damaged skin, and a cigarette in the mouth causes soft tissue to tense.
  • Constantly touch the stain. Even a slight mechanical impact can increase damage. If the skin is torn, there is a risk of infection in the wound.
  • Apply iodine or brilliant green to the hematoma. These products burn the sensitive skin of the lips. If you need to wash the wound, it is better to use Chlorhexidine or peroxide.

In most cases, a bruise in the lip area can be dealt with on your own. But it happens that the mark appears for no reason, persists despite treatment, or gets larger and hurts. In these cases, you should definitely consult a doctor.

Bruised lip: first aid

After a bruise, further treatment depends on the type of injury and the condition of the victim. However, there are general rules for first aid.

The first thing to do after an injury is to clean and disinfect the injury site, especially if there is a cut. You can use any antiseptic: Miramistin, Chlorhexidine.

Hydrogen peroxide is suitable for internal treatment; such manipulations will prevent infection from entering the open wound. Then they will apply something cold. Remember that you cannot use ice in its “pure” form.

Sudden and severe cooling can cause tissue necrosis and aggravate the situation. It is better to wrap ice cubes in a cloth and apply such a compress every 15 minutes. Visible results will appear after the first applications.

A child with an injury should see a doctor immediately. There may have been a head injury during the impact.


An injured child should see a doctor immediately.

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